You’re Not The Only One

Modern relationships are asked to do a lot at once: be safe and spontaneous, be best friends and passionate lovers, feel emotionally close and physically alive. When those expectations collide, intimacy can start to feel confusing, lonely, or like something you’ve quietly given up on.

And because sex is so hard to talk about, most people wait too long before asking for help.

You might be here because:

In your relationship

• You and your partner want different things, or want them at different times

• Talking about sex leads to hurt feelings, defensiveness, or silence

• You’re trying to rebuild trust after an affair or betrayal

• Closeness has faded since having a baby, a move, or a stressful season

• You’re exploring non-monogamy or opening your relationship and want a thoughtful guide

For yourself

• Sex feels like a source of dread, pressure, anxiety, or resentment

• You have a hard time feeling pleasure, getting aroused, or relaxing into touch

• You’re worried about how your body is functioning

• You avoid physical closeness or nudity

• You’re healing from sexual assault or abuse

• You’re sorting out questions about your sexual identity or orientation

If any of this sounds familiar, nothing is wrong with you. These are common, understandable problems, and they can change.